LiFe As ThE PeRfEcT GiRlFrIeNd fomer FeMiNiSt..

"feminism - A social theory or political movement supporting the equality of both sexes in all aspects of public and private life; specifically, a theory or movement that argues that legal and social restrictions on females must be removed in order to bring about such equality."

How do I conform?

Its going to be hard for me to drop my feminist ideas in my relationship. How to I suddenly change my lifestyle when i was brought up to believe that women are equal to our male partners. OK don't get me wrong, I'm not saying my partner doesn't believe in equality but an African man's view of women's equality usually is not the same as what the western feminist world views as equality this day and age.

I was brought up by my grandmother, who is a woman who firmly believes that a woman can do just as much, if not more, than a man. She taught man that no man can force you to do stuff or tell you how to live. Now when you are in love with a man who is very African in his beliefs how to you meet in the middle.

My partner is the best in all his does, his is very accommodating and he puts up with my constant laziness but sometimes he wants me to pack his clothes because he believes that as his woman I should be doing that. He probably is right and packing his clothes is not a heavy tasks to asks me but as soon as i think of doing that I hear my granny in the back of his mind saying 'Anita, you don't have to pack this man's clothes, he can do it himself. Your are not there to pack clothes for him. You are his partner, not his slave'.

OK, now that I'm thinking about it maybe I am just making excuses for my laziness. Sometimes I do have the time to pack his clothes when he is at work/school and I'm just laying on his bed daydreaming of the day we'll be married.(He actually packs my clothes sometimes...)

Now imagine if I can't pack his clothes now how bad will it be when we actually get married!

I think I am just using Feminism as an excuse for laziness.

Should I toss the whole 50/50 thing out of the window and compromise with my laziness for the sake of my relationship.

....In life Nothing is ever just Black & White.... but where is the grey area?...